Stopping to smell the Roses February 13 2015

I often wonder how we end up waking up one morning and not really recalling how or why we have ended up where we are - and i don't mean after a night out on the town.
I know that we are all busy and that we all have jobs, responsibilities, significant others and so on... but somehow some of us are enjoying the ride and the rest of us are just hanging on for dear life hoping that we don't lose our grip and end up under the wheels. And, it's funny, it's not until we end up under the wheels or losing one all together that we truely take a moment to exhale and re-evalute our entire be-ing.
Recently one such change has happened on a personal level and even though i thought that i was doing a great job at being present and taking it easy, apparently i wasn't and that just taking it easy isn't enough.
Stopping to smell the roses isn't just about the smell - it's about the experience and how it makes you feel, your appreciation and the quiet moment that allows new ideas and desires to bubble to the surface like the effervescence in a bottle of soft drink. It's about finding ways to make each and every day sacred and how to fill it with the things that make your heart sing. It's about finding moderation and balance and time for yourself despite all else. A very dear friend of mind once said 'the mother wolf feeds herself before she feeds her cubs', in other words you can not give and be all that you can for others if first you don't nourish yourself.
Taking the time to not only slow down but enjoy the moments of quiet is the key to harmony within all areas of your life, practicing Ahimsa or non-violence towards yourself and then transferring that to your family and friends.
In Yoga we talk about your Dharma or your duty of which there are three. The first duty you have is to yourself 'mother wolf', you must fill your vessel before any other can drink from it. Your second duty is to your family and your third is to your community - in that order you may give what you have but you must replenish the source.
So, these holidays..... your first Dharma - YOU! Make sure that you drink all of the goodness that life has to offer you, nourish your body and soul and begin 2011 with all that you need to spread love to those around you and the greater community. If everyone took this approach imagine how truely blessed this world would be. For those who are fulfilled are not angry or hateful or hurtful, they are kind and forgiving, compassionate and loving.

"Self care is never a selfish act. It is simply good sterwardship of the only gift i have. The gift i was put on earth to offer others. Anytime we can listen to true self, and give it the care it requires, we do so not only for ourselves, but also for the many others whose lives we touch."
- Parker Palmer

Wishing you a blossoming heart today and every day!